Got an Umbrella?

Earlier this week I had a session with my coach but at this point, she is effectively my Psychologist.

Coach put a bunch of things in perspective for me. She has done so a lot over the past 8-weeks. You may think you have things under control but storm clouds can brew quickly. Before you realise it the heavens have opened and you are soaking and can’t see three feet in front of you.

Having someone there to be your temporary shelter or your GPS can be life-saving. It doesn’t have to be a coach, psychologist or anyone professional. A friend or family member who can listen and is perfect.You don’t need someone who can give you solutions right now. Often, that is the opposite of what you need. You need an outlet. An outlet to voice your _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ (insert emotion here).

When times are tough you learn a lot about yourself. You learn how big your shoulders are and where your breaking point is. It’s fair to say everyone will have times like these in their lives.

Each time I’m in the eye of the storm I think to myself, this must be the last time. I can’t sustain much more of this, I can’t handle anything like this again!I have a tattoo on my left bicep that says, Gam ze ya’avor. Translated from Hebrew to English; “This too shall pass”.

For those that are unfamiliar with the story, here’s the short version. “All things come to an end.”Try not to worry too much in the bad times because time will pass and they will end. Similarly, be present and enjoy the good times because those too are no match for time.

People close to me often reference the tattoo when I’m in an anxious period. “Read your arm Jazza, read your arm.” Well, thanks, fuckers! I know it’s there but they are only words. And they do not fucking help now!

But, if I get some support. They help me take a moment to step out of the dark, brooding clouds. I then realise that all the past shitty times did end.

When the droplets stinging your face are the size of marbles and you're cold to the bone it can seem like the end is nowhere near. Focus on what you can control. You can’t stop the wind and the rain. But, you can grab an umbrella and some wellies. You can find shelter until it passes.

Your support person can’t stop the storm from happening but they can give you an umbrella. Or, steer you towards shelter for some respite. Together you can shift your focus a bit and the torrent will become a drizzle. And, the sun will come out again.

You don’t have to stand in the pouring rain on your own.If you’re in a storm right now please reach out for a raincoat.

Or, If you know of anyone who you think needs shelter please reach out to them. Ask if they’re ok. You don’t have to fix anything, just be there.

If you can’t think of a person or people you have at arm's length please reply here to this post. I have a coat cupboard filled with brollies!

What I’m reading

Specifically for this week, I’m revisiting bits and pieces from Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. If you’re new to Stoicism this may be a bit heavy. Rather try The Daily Stoic - Ryan Holiday. I will touch on Stoicism in later posts.

What I’m listening to

I am listening to Dr. Rhonda Patrick on the Joe Rogan Experience. Always packed with knowledge and health advice.

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